The original event
What happened first? Record the action, date, evidence, witness, and impact before recording the later argument.
Understand 04
When the story flips, go back to the first fact.
DARVO means deny, attack, and reverse victim and offender. The practical tool is not arguing the label; it is preserving the original event, the response, and the sequence.
Sequence
Keep cause and reaction separate
The reversal
Record denial, attack, accusation, minimisation, or role reversal as separate behaviour rather than letting it overwrite the original fact.
The practical reset
Use a timeline. Avoid proving personality. Prove sequence, repetition, screenshots, recordings, messages, and impact.
Sources
Research and evidence handling
01Use DARVO as a perception tool, not a diagnosis.
The safest public wording is behavioural: denial, attack, reversal, credibility attacks, confusion, and self-blame. Keep the claim tied to what can be shown.